The last few times I’ve been at the laundry, I’ve especially noticed a few different younger couples and their approach. It seems that the women usually fall into a pattern of giving the men precise instructions while the men listen, rather than taking the lead, or expressing that they’ve got it. It then became clear, that I have done this as well; and then I began thinking of the other scenarios where this happens.
After becoming more aware of this tendency in myself, now if
my significant other and I do laundry together, we load in different machines,
but we do it separately. I find that it’s best if I go away because I too will
fall into a mode where I start making comments, directions, questions. It’s an
odd thing, really, and yes, there are exceptions. But, there is a fine line,
and it’s one area where the difference in how men and women go about certain
tasks becomes very apparent.
Something I hear often also is when a couple has been
together so long, the man always defers to the woman: Whatever she says,
wants, approves. It’s fascinating and maybe I’m just seeing the small
percentage and this isn’t how it is across many long standing relationships. It
makes me feel that we as women and all of our hormones and emotions are
actually quite difficult and moody, whereas our men without the hormones, etc.,
etc., are able to be more carefree to an extent because they don’t internalize
and overanalyze as much as women and they may hold a grudge, but they seem more
equipped to “let go.”
But it’s these emotions and hormones and internalization
that also make women special and capable of so much. Men are special too, but
in very different, practical, rock solid ways.