tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post8630934945173584896..comments2023-06-12T04:32:03.116-07:00Comments on Pictures/Thoughts: Procedural Death ~ ProcessingRebbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-57241434137063288292011-08-24T09:08:17.120-07:002011-08-24T09:08:17.120-07:00Thank you, Keiko. I appreciate you sharing how you...Thank you, Keiko. I appreciate you sharing how you can write Kanjo in two ways. It seems logical and it does seem that these concepts get mixed up. Reality is reality and I agree it takes more than love and is no easy task. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.Rebbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-69658307758403946562011-08-22T12:16:38.523-07:002011-08-22T12:16:38.523-07:00Rebb,
Thank you for writing your personal story. ...Rebb,<br /><br />Thank you for writing your personal story. I think we can all relate to the story. It's similar in any countries, I think. <br /><br />This is what I think. Love and money are separate. In Japanese we can write kanjo in two ways. One is 感情emotion, the other is 勘定calculation.<br />We tend to mix them and get in trouble. Old folks need all the help they can get, but in reality, only one or two main people can take care of them. And it takes more than love to care for dying people. It isn't easy task.keiko amanohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009453048859594709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-64329147696617312272011-08-22T09:23:08.335-07:002011-08-22T09:23:08.335-07:00I forgot to add the cousins did come to the funera...I forgot to add the cousins did come to the funeral, but before that no contact. They seemed friendly at the funeral, so it was a shock that they did not want to cooperate. Oh well, such is life.<br />:)Rebbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-8480458665139815382011-08-22T09:17:38.833-07:002011-08-22T09:17:38.833-07:00Keiko, That’s interesting about how the instructio...Keiko, That’s interesting about how the instruction book you have said you have to follow up once a year. The eyewitness part makes sense. Usually when you have very important and sensitive documents, one needs a witness and their signature. <br /><br />Yes, I think it’s a good idea unless families don’t mind leaving it to the legal system. My grandmother and grandfather both died without Wills or any type of document to say what they wanted to happen. With my grandfather, no problem because my grandmother was still alive and no one came forward. When my grandmother died, my uncle had some problems. To make a long story short, he asked me and my brother’s to sign a document saying, we give up our rights to my grandmother’s house, thus allowing my uncle to inherit it. We all agreed, that it is what my grandmother would have wanted. Well, there were cousins involved, that sort of cut themselves off from the family and never showed up or visited or called my grandmother. They came out of nowhere when they found out my grandmother died. They decided they did not want to sign the house over to my uncle. They wanted the money. In California when someone dies without a will, it is called, dying intestate, which then means, the State intestancy code must be followed, which allowed the cousins to collect, even though my grandmother would not have wanted that. It was a difficult and long process and I helped my uncle by writing my thoughts down for his attorney who then put it into a counter claim document. In the end, my uncle was able to get the settlement amount down lower, but it was still a good chunk of money. And the process was not only long, but cost him money every time he needed to talk to his lawyer or meet with him in person.<br /><br />In general, I wish that these types of things didn’t have to be so difficult. It bothers me that anything involving money can tear people apart. I’ve come to the point, where I would rather have peace of mind than money any day. <br /><br />I guess also what stood out is that even if a dying person expresses their wishes verbally, as my grandmother, it just doesn’t matter unless you have it in writing. No one expects that someone will come forward and make the process difficult.Rebbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-51580217278315922682011-08-21T14:48:37.472-07:002011-08-21T14:48:37.472-07:00Rebb,
That's a good idea. A lot of people ne...Rebb,<br /><br />That's a good idea. A lot of people need help on that. Long time ago, I bought such do-it-yourself book. I did follow some instruction, but it said I have to follow up once a year or something and need two eyewitnesses or something. I need to revisit.keiko amanohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009453048859594709noreply@blogger.com