tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post1979165670299862937..comments2023-06-12T04:32:03.116-07:00Comments on Pictures/Thoughts: Thinking about Self-Confidence ~ Intentional Awareness ~ “Pleasant Pit bull”Rebbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-46979323826727749762012-02-24T18:42:58.450-08:002012-02-24T18:42:58.450-08:00Mechanical makes me a little uncomfortable also, V...Mechanical makes me a little uncomfortable also, Vincent. <br /><br />I think your absolutely right in what you say about social situations and the other person. I've observed this in myself, but in reading one of the introversion books--one I'm listening too--there's a part where the author discusses this. I am hoping to write a reaction when I'm done and weave in my few self-observations if I still have the interest to write about it when I'm done. I know too that when I'm in a social situations and someone seems shyer than myself, I kick into a different mode and make the effort to make them comfortable without making them uncomfortable. Also, I do well around comfortably outgoing people. They put me at ease because they feel genuine and I don't feel pressured to talk. I also don't always do well with when I'm asked certain questions on the spot. I need time to process. <br /><br />Also, I've always known this about myself, but in one of the introvert books I'm reminded that introverts don't typically like "small talk." I'm ok with talking about the weather, movies, and other little things, but I'd rather listen in on a philosophical discussion or someone dealing with something emotional, and anything having to do with reading, writing, and thinking, etc. and I tend to only really talk if I'm one on one with someone in person, mostly I listen and observe. <br /><br />Yes, I too believe powerfully in non-verbal communication. There are so many subtleties that quite honestly, I feel that many are not aware of the non-verbal both in sending and receiving.Rebbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-13906079301322527032012-02-24T00:32:19.640-08:002012-02-24T00:32:19.640-08:00I sympathise with you in these matters, Rebb. I te...I sympathise with you in these matters, Rebb. I tend to shrink into myself when dealing with strangers who respond in a mechanical way - checkout staff in a supermarket for example who greet you because they have been instructed to be friendly. I don't object to their training of course and it is pleasanter than if they were surly. Sometimes there's a student on vacation in these situations and I instantly spot a different attitude, then it is easy to be real and friendly.<br /><br />So I think that in social situations one's own self-confidence or otherwise depends more on the other person than one may be aware of.<br /><br />I usually try to be genuinely open and friendly with everyone but don't have a way to show it clearly. I believe powerfully in non-verbal communication; but does the other person?Vincenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18297306807695767580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-91898426114196861582012-02-23T00:59:34.419-08:002012-02-23T00:59:34.419-08:00Keiko, thank you for your good suggestions and yes...Keiko, thank you for your good suggestions and yes, I do remember what you wrote before--thank you. <br /><br />I hope I'm not painting my boss to be a bad person. I was going to delete this blog, but I didn't think it was too bad--I hope not. He has many positive qualities too I admit though that I don't like taking the defensive, which I sometimes must to to counter balance his personality. I'm not worried about a raise. I just don't like when he blames before thinking. The good thing is we've been working together long enough that I feel comfortable speaking up when I need to. <br /><br />The funny thing is, he's always very complimentary in my performance reviews. I try not to blog about work too often, but it does happen.Rebbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117210892683574784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4322097819850058517.post-10471788333502937372012-02-23T00:17:20.437-08:002012-02-23T00:17:20.437-08:00Rebb,
If I were you, I would keep a journal of bo...Rebb,<br /><br />If I were you, I would keep a journal of boss's misbehavior. Write every detail indlucing his expression, his words, looks and so on. You can use it when your performance review comes up. You just need to remind him each such entry on what, how, and when each happened, but has he acknowledged how many times you have filed his letter correctly and other job activities to his satisfaction? Do you remember what I wrote before? You can ask him if he is satisfied with your work once in a while especially right after you worked extra hard for him. This is to build a strong image of yourself to him. If he says yes, thank you, a few times, and you keep this up, then it's easy to ask raise when the time comes.keiko amanohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009453048859594709noreply@blogger.com